Scenario P – You sing like a girl. That’s so gay.
Scenario Q – Wait, you’re not straight? OMG! I’ve ALWAYS wanted to have a ‘gay friend’.
Scenario R – Wait, you’re not straight? So weird. Are you normal? Do you take meds?
Scenario S – You’re not straight…… so?
Ever heard these on sitcoms, or in real life? Sure you have. Rarely the last scenario though, isn’t it? But here’s the thing – WHY is it such a big deal? Whether you’re straight or not, why make remarks about it as if it’s (being homo, bi-, pan-, trans-, or even asexual) unheard of? On the contrary, it is heard of. And is probably why bigotry surrounds every single individual. Few tend to accept it, some turn a blind eye, some make a fuss, the rest condemn it AND make a fuss.
Just as you can’t choose who you fall in love with, you can’t choose what is biologically existent in someone else! Unfortunately, not all realize this, and they are unaware of that an opinion is not a fact. But is it really that hard to understand?
Perhaps for some it is. Why? What is it? Why the fuss? Why the negative judgements? Is it because of the fear of the unknown? Unable to understand and hence the fear, and consequently, the condemnation?
If X is not heterosexual, it doesn’t impede on anyone’s actions, so why does a random person’s orientation come across as an oddity to another?
Shouldn’t we all worry about our own dysfunctional relationships, and not be opinionated about someone else’s? There isn’t any good or bad love. Each story is different from the other. And each is divine. And nobody has the right to judge it.
And what’s the point in being a homophobe, or a ignorant person who deprecatingly misuses the term ‘gay’, if at the end of the day, you relieve yourself to homosexual porn?